March Affirmations 2023

I’ve noticed how avoidant I can be. At some point, or maybe multiple points, I internalized the idea that it was bad, or unproductive, to feel my “negative” feelings. It made other people uncomfortable, it made me uncomfortable, or there was simply no room for my very big feelings. So, I pushed them down. As deep as they’d go. Over time, however, they bubbled up, little by little until they started to get big and messy.

When they’d come up just a little bit, I’d learned to deep breathe, to distract myself with something light-hearted, or something I deemed as fun. I put a band-aid on it, and it worked most of the time, but then those feelings started to grow, and they found new, more disruptive ways to get my attention. Even then, though, I’d push through it, never thinking to ask myself “where is this really coming from?”.

“There comes a point where we need to stop just pulling people out of the river. We need to go upstream and find out why they’re falling in.” -Desmond Tutu

At some point, in the midst of repeating the pattern with any of my chosen distractions, I saw that I needed to take a deeper look. What stories am I telling myself in my mind? Where do I feel unsafe? What is triggering me and where does that trigger come from? I had to learn to ask myself these questions, but only once I realized two things: all of my feelings are valid, welcome, and never too big; and I am so very worthy of doing this ongoing work.

I offer some affirmations:

I am worthy of deep inner work.

I am not too afraid to face my shadows.

I do the work to get to know myself deeply.

I accept all of my story.

I seek to see myself and my experience clearly.

Working to understand and accept myself is an act of self-Love.

I release regret.

You are so very worthy. You deserve unconditional Love, acceptance, and effort. You deserve the space to feel every single emotion that occurs in you. It is up to no one else to grant you these things. You got this.

Sending You Love. Happy March!